Deep seated psychological issues or simple relationships problems?

Take all the therapy to build a better bonding. He's having trust issues. He's having separation anxiety issues. I have been abused for the last 45 years from my parents when I was young and just recently with my ex husband. If he cares for you enough he would do it to save this relationship. It will make him feel better about his life and surroundings. Not all will agree but let him decide on his own time when to do this as most abused people don't like to speak of the abuse as its traumatic. Just be supportive. Just love him unconditional. Don't run from his issues besides going to war is stressful enough. My son went to Iraq twice and just last weekend he finally broke down about his issues. It can get to some military personal. They try to keep all their issues bottled up. Just listen to him vent when he goes to therapy. This isn't the time to point fingers and who did what to whom. Just sit and listen and observe. The counselor will guide you through the steps of recovery. Just hang on it will be a roller coaster when you attend these sessions. He will cry. He will get angry. He will not talk much at first. Let him get all the junk or steam out of his system. Just be supportive. I know its not a one way issue here but both of you need to come together to make this work.